Ending Well

Ending Well is dedicated to conversations about life, loss, grief, dying and death.

Ending Well – Conversations about life.

Ending Well is dedicated to conversations about life, loss, grief, dying and death.

In a culture where death is seen as a loss, at best, and more often taboo, loss, grief and dying are often given brief regard. There is an expectation to be strong, that life must move on.

For those experiencing loss, grief, death and dying, this is cold comfort.

Helping You Live Well

Ending Well provides the space, time and opportunity to feel, explore and gain new perspectives on loss, grief, death and dying—to support living well.

At Ending Well, loss, grief, death and dying are taken out of the closet, where they can be seen and accepted as parts of life that enrich us.

When we are caught in the throes of loss, grief, death and dying, it may be hard to imagine how endings can be new beginnings.

Through conversation and shifts in perspectives, we learn to accept these challenges with compassion, and come to new understandings that enable us to live well in the face of endings. Because ending well is living well.

Quote

This is hard. How can I be with this now? I will be with this. May I give myself the compassion I need to be with this.

– Based on a quote by Kristen Neff

Services – Dr. Rae-Seebach will work with you to find answers, cope with, and reconstruct your life, as you move through loss, grief, death and dying.

Caregivers:


 

Are you a caregiver caring for someone who has a serious illness, terminal diagnosis or is elderly?

How do I take care of my sibling or aging parent without losing my mind?

How do I talk to my child about a terminal diagnosis, dying and death?

How do I talk with my aging parents about death and dying?

Coping and Reconstructing Life:


 

How do I talk to my friend who has been diagnosed with a serious or terminal illness?

How do I cope with the death of my parent, friend, sibling, child?

How do I cope with the pain and loss of a love, house, job, relationship?

How do I reconstruct my life after a loss, death?

How do I cope when a loved one chooses Medical Assistance in Dying (MAiD)?

Advanced Planning


 

What would happen if I became critically ill, became unconsciousness, am hospitalized and unable to speak for myself?

Have I prepared advance directives to ensure that my wishes are known and carried out?

Do my loved ones know what my wishes are?

Alan Wolfelt

Mourning in our culture isn’t always easy. Normal thoughts and feelings connected to loss are typically seen as unnecessary and even shameful. Instead of encouraging mourners to express themselves, our culture’s unstated rules would have them avoid their hurt and ‘be strong.’ But grief is not a disease. Instead, it’s the normal, healthy process of embracing the mystery of the death of someone loved. If mourners see themselves as active participants in their healing, they will experience a renewed sense of meaning and purpose in life.

Leonard Cohen

The birds they sang
At the break of day
Start again
I heard them say
Don't dwell on what has passed away
Or what is yet to be

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in

Mind Beyond Death by Dzogchen Ponlop

Death was part of the deal when we accepted the idea of birth. Our entrance into this world came with a contract to leave it. So, whether you sigh with relief at the end of a torturous moment, or desperately wish some Hollywood movie-like instant could last forever, every moment comes to an end. Every story has an end, regardless of whether that end is happy or sad. Nevertheless, when a moment or a lifetime ends, we cannot argue with it. There is no room for negotiation. Recognizing this reality is the way we come into contact with death in everyday life.

Rabindrath Tagore

Death is not extinguishing the light, it is putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.

Rumi

There is no darkness, only light unseen

Based on a quote by Kristen Neff

This is hard
How can I be with this?
I will do my best to be with this now.
May I be kind to myself.
May I give myself the compassion I need.

Pema Chodron

As much as we might resist them, endings happen in every moment—the end of a breath, a day, a relationship, and ultimately, the end of life. Accompanying each ending is a new beginning.

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Dr. Raazhan Rae-Seebach is a registered psychologist who works from an integrated, psychotherapeutic approach that includes mindfulness, meditation, spiritual and existential practices focused on supporting clients to gain wisdom and insight into loss, grief, death and dying.

In her work through Ending Well, Dr. Rae-Seebach provides companioned support for children and adults of all ages who are nearing the end of life, who have a terminal diagnosis, who are grieving the loss of someone, and who want practical assistance focused on end of life.  

Dr. Rae-Seebach also welcomes clients who are curious about, have questions about, want to talk about loss, grief, death and dying, to gain perspective, insight, and knowledge about one of the only certainties that will happen to everyone.

Through conversation, with humility and compassion, Dr. Rae-Seebach draws on integrated psychodynamic, expressive/play, existential and cognitive practices tailored to each client to facilitate a process of dis-covering how to live well and end well.

Dr. Raazhan Rae-Seebach Psychologist Inc.

Dr. Raazhan Rae-Seebach Psychologist Inc.

#303 – 1037 West Broadway
Vancouver, BC
V6H 1E3

Dr. Rae-Seebach’s office is located in Vancouver. She works with individuals and from Vancouver, North and West Vancouver, the Lower Mainland, Squamish, Vancouver Island and Northern British Columbia.

Hours:

Tuesday and Thursday – 2:00 – 6:00 pm
(last appointment is at 5:00 pm)

Fees:

Dr. Rae-Seebach follows the fee schedule recommended by the BC Psychological Association (BCPA), which is $235 per session.
Fees are paid in full at the beginning of each session.

Payment options include: cash, credit card (Visa or Master Card) or e-transfer. Please note a surcharge of 2.75% applies to credit card payments.

If you have extended health benefits such as Pacific Blue Cross, your insurer may cover some of the costs of consultation/therapy. Please contact your insurer about your coverage. The Medical Services Plan does not cover psychological services.

Cancellation Policy

48 hours notice is needed if you have to cancel an appointment to allow time to fill the cancellation.

Late cancellations and missed appointments are charged at the regular hourly rate.